ok, so I’m new to this board and am just lookin for help.

The other day my bf of 4 years confessed to me that the reason we don’t have sex very often is because he doesn’t like to have sex with me. He told me he’s not sure why. And has told me that with his ex g/f he used to purse sex with her at least twice a week. He’s told me that he’s absolutely sure he loves me and is happy with me, but if thats true, what could it possibly be that causes him to not enjoy doing that with me. I know he’s not cheating or anything, but i do know that he likes porn….alot. Could that be our problem?I asked him if there was anything I could do to try to make it better for him and he told me no. He did, however tell me he enjoys oral…..but it seems so unintimate…

I just don’t know, I’m so hurt by this whole thing and don’t know what to do. We were thinking maybe counselling would maybe help, but does anyone have any other suggestions?

Thanks